His newborn brother was sleeping in a baby hammock that was unlocked and able to swing freely. Max who had quite normal feelings of jealousy was helping by ‘gently’ swinging the baby back and forth when suddenly he pushed TOO hard and the whole thing began to tip. As it fell, Max reached out and grabbed the baby, holding him in his hammock as the contraption hit the ground.
Now even though he was the one who caused the accident, we were SO grateful he had caught his brother that no-one mentioned the ‘naughty’ behaviour and instead went over the top with praise and acknowledgement for his heroic and instant reflex to save the baby.
His Grandmother even made up a song about him as a superhero that she sang every (arghhh) time she saw with him for YEARS after!
The ultimate programming!
The intense emotional feelings at the time mixed with the positive acknowledgement, I believe, served to cause a quick surge of brain growth in Max resulting in a memory tree or an established neural cluster that supports heroism. Maybe his passion for equality, justice and the like is a result of that…?
I don’t know but it is interesting to contemplate the effect our words and behaviour have on our children and that OUR choices and reactions whether they are conscious or unconscious may determine whether our child becomes a SUPER HERO or Serial killer!