Keeping our EARS open (and minds and hearts :-) )

When we become present with our children, open our hearts and minds to listen, we HEAR SO much!
Many of my children’s true issues would have been missed had I not listened properly… and many of them were I am sure.
I remember consciously listening to my 13 yr old one afternoon and discovered… in between the lines that he was deeply unhappy about his situation with a stepparent (gone now) and was ACTUALLY becoming physically sick due to repressing his feelings.
We were able to nut out a solution and he was relieved and became well again!
LISTENING is worth it!
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COLOUR in our tummy’s

Colour your lunch boxes RED! and orange and yellow, green and blue and brown! It TRULY makes a difference when we bring conscious awareness to our food…..Children benefit on a physical level as well as an emotional and spiritual level, conscious awareness is a type of appreciation …like grace or gratitude….

Children Think We Are AMAZING!

As parents and adults we are in a position of great power.

The children of the world are watching us, we are conditioning them to be like us.

The best thing we can do with this knowledge is learn to LOVE and respect ourselves!

As we raise our own emotional intelligence and self-esteem the children around us are naturally gifted with the opportunity to live their best lives.

HOW? How do we learn to love ourselves? WHAT even IS ‘loving the self’?

It all starts in this moment… with the present, with coming back into NOW, into the body and being prepared to CONSCIOUSLY live.

Loving the self is really about getting to know ourselves, listening to our mind chatter and making amends with ourselves. We need to forgive ourselves the hard time we have given ourselves all these years and begin to think BETTER thoughts.

  • look into the mirror everyday and say something NICE
  • breathe deeply and consciously
  • change our eating habits, feed ourselves with fresh nutrient rich foods.
  • really appreciate this opportunity to be on the Earth

We are here  now, we might as well make the best of it!

When we light up our strand in this wonderful worldly web, our children will learn to light up theirs and THAT is how we bring positivity to our future.

Beautiful Humility -Teaching It To Kids

Humility is a wonderful value to teach our children.

Being humble does NOT mean being unconfident, it means you are thankful to others, you give credit where it is due, you are secure enough in yourself that you are happy to re-direct praise to another.

Being humble means you can walk away from conflict without needing to be ‘right’, you have the freedom to be happy instead.

We teach Humility to our children by being humble. Humility can lie in simply apologising for over-reacting or being ‘out of line’.

Next time you find stress levels rising with your child, make the choice to stop. You are the adult and this is your opportunity to teach, SO, take a deep breath, summon a smile (this will help on a hormonal level) and say ‘It’s okay honey, you are probably right (even if you think they are not) let’s take a break and discuss it when we are calmer’, ruffle their hair or touch their nose (sounds strange but it works) and leave the argument. Get yourself a glass of water and try to see it from their point of view. Often all children need is acknowledgement, is there someway you can acknowledge them? Are you able to appreciate their idea or allow a healthy compromise?

If you need help with a troubling situation drop me a line at arna@theiamprogram.com and we can try and figure out a workable approach.

Children are our future leaders, let us teach them well!

 

Get PAINTY with your children!

We have organised a once month get together, a few mums and a few kids, lots of paper and non toxic paint!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

It is all about consciously expressing our energy and clearing our system so as to be fabulous women and parents.

We follow a ‘sort of’ structure and do a few arty exercises to switch on our brains and get into R-mode see Drawing on the Right Side of the Brain

Then we model for each other and go crazy with paint!

It is a wonderful morning and creates an atmosphere of love, hope and sharing.

Why not get together with a friend or two and PLAY like us!

Word Power Part B Emotional Intelligence workshop 3-5 yrs

Word Power Workshop

Part Two

Today is about recognising positive qualities in ourselves

A discussion about our positive qualities is appropriate here.

Encourage the children to say nice things about themselves, teacher/parent participation works wonders for enthusiasm levels!

        ‘My name is Sally and I love my soft brown hair

        ‘I am Daisy and I am Happy’

        ‘I am DJ and I feel good!’

        ‘I am Daniel and I am strong’

        ‘I am Zac and I love my mum’

 

Even the smallest positive thought counts.

Give each child a few pieces of paper and ask them to make happy, positive, joyful drawings of themselves and the good things in their lives; who they are, what they love.

Gather all the children into a circle, ask them to close their eyes and take three deep breaths and smile.

Ask the children to hand in their ‘positive quality’ drawings to the teacher.

We are going to make a book!

Together think of a good title for your book, WE LOVE US or We Are WONDERFUL etc…!

Design a cover page.

Staple together and bind with tape if possible.

What a wonderful book for the school, home or centre to be proud of, when the children look through it they will be filled with good feelings!

Good Feelings Generate Good Feelings

The I AM Program recommend using recycled materials, paper and objects wherever possible in the name of an eco-friendly existence!

 

Word Power, Part A- Emotional Intelligence Workshop for 3-5yrs

Emotional Intelligence Workshop for 3-5 yrs

The I AM Program Copyright 2011

WORD POWER

 I AM POSITIVE!

Understanding the power of words and intentions

This workshop focuses on teaching children to understand the power of words and initiates the thought that it is our personal responsibility to choose and use words with care. Through experimenting with the emotions that come with words we bring awareness to our ‘emotional energy detection’ abilities and develop our emotional intelligence for future interactions and life direction.

Values: respect, moderation, integrity, care, empathy, confidence

Intelligences: linguistic, kinesthetic, emotional, intrapersonal and interpersonal

Note For Parents- although workshops have been written for the classroom initially, ALL workshops may be adapted to your personal needs, at home with your child or children. The I AM Program see’s the parent as number one educator in their child’s life!

Introduction

Human beings are a vocal species; we use words and sound to navigate our world. But it is not simply the words that are effective, the intention behind the words we choose to use is also something we need to understand in order to live with integrity.

We hear words and we see the movements of the face and body that accompanies our speech but as well as this, within every human is an emotional energy detector, some call this the inner voice or intuition!

Words have a superficial meaning and we are able to make a judgement based on the word used, for example- ‘Hate’ has a meaning that we understand as negative, but it is very much the energy we have agreed upon and attached to the word that elicits the emotional response.

When we speak a word with the intention to harm a human’s energy detector will register that word as harmful. On the other hand if we say a word with the intention to question or make an unemotional statement, the human energy detector will register the difference.

Our energy detector or intuition is always switched on but it takes self-awareness and the ability to calm the mind to turn the volume up so that we can detect and react appropriately to words that come our way.

Turning our energy detectors volume UP can be done with practice!

Practicing listening to the feelings in our bodies, taking time out to feel the emotions that pop up in when we interact with others helps us to become more aware.

Awareness of our emotions helps to keep us safe in the world. We can listen to our body’s emotional response to things and act accordingly. If we get a feeling of anger, we can take a deep breath and walk away, for example. If we feel loving we might respond by expressing ourselves with a smile. If we feel a scared feeling we might know to follow that feeling and find a safer place to be.

We can become so good at listening to ourselves that we will almost seem to read the future at times. Like when our inner feelings voice, our energy detector, senses something is up and we find ourselves deciding to move away, only to watch a branch fall from the tree onto the very place we were standing just a moment ago!

Human beings are extremely powerful creatures with brains that develop with speed and accuracy according to our choice of focus.

Playing with words and the feelings associated with words, will start us on the journey of finetuning our emotional energy detectors!

Caution- Educator/carer needs to be alert to moments in which children exhibit lack of emotional intelligence within the I AM Program workshops, reminding all children before commencing that we are creating a safe place where we are all allowed to express ourselves freely. Everyone has feelings and everyone deserves respect. Ask children to find the best, most loving parts of themselves when in this safe place so that everyone can have an awesome time. Suggestion: a few big, deep breaths and affirming of their greatness.

Ask children to repeat- I AM Wonderful (or alternative appropriate word…Loving, positive, calm etc) 3 times, (I prefer loud, louder, loudest technique,, great for releasing energy and re-setting attention)

 Workshop

3-5 yrs

Painting Words

Suggested time frame: Part A, half hour, Part B 1 hour

What you will need

A4 paper pens, pencils, crayons, stapler, paint, brushes and large paper

Workshop Part A

The first part of this workshop is especially appropriate for the very little children.

Do not expect them to verbally understand or even respond exactly to your words but KNOW that you are introducing the energy and intention of emotional intelligence development to their fast growing minds!

Choose a painting area in which mess doesn’t matter. Set out paper for the children, either separately if they are old enough to understand ‘mine’ and ‘yours’ or large communal paper or card.

From the below list choose a word and perform! Sing the word, act out the word out as you and the children use your hands and fingers to make abstract painting!

As you can see the ratio of positive words to negative words is higher in the list this is simply to ensure that the children are exposed to positivity in a higher dose!

LOVING

HAPPY

SAD

SILLY

CALM

ANGRY

KIND

FRIENDLY

All emotions are valid and ultimately we are learning NOT to be afraid of sad or angry feelings as they can be changed with focus and command.

We are at the beginning stages of introducing emotion as separate from who the children are.

In this way they can view and choose their feelings more easily when necessary.

It is when we identify with our emotions as WHO WE ARE that we come into difficulty.

Emotional intelligence is about perceiving emotions correctly in self and others, recognising and discriminating between emotions, using emotions to rationalise and make decisions and expressing emotions appropriately.

Go through as many words as you feel inspired to play with and when you are finished take PHOTOS not just of the finished artwork but also of the beautiful, messy and awesome children!

Suggestion– Print off pictures staple together, write words here and there, near pics that seem to match and make a feeling word book for the children to take home!