It is extremely important to get to know ourselves so as to give our children the best chance and limit their options for rebellion!
- Note the FEELING that arises inside as we say something to a child….if we get a niggle of unrest when we tell them to behave a certain way, it may be an indication that we don’t truly believe what we are saying. This gives rise to challenge!
- Listen to our thoughts; are these things that our professors/parents used to say to us and are we now simply repeating them to the children by rote? If so it may be time for some introspection. Do we TRULY believe that it MATTERS if the child colours outside the lines?
- Be more humble when speaking to children. Let them see that we are fallible human beings; it won’t come as such a shock when we say something totally irrational or nonsensical! If we admit up front that ‘I don’t know everything yet!’ or ‘I could be wrong about this’ it makes it pretty boring for the child to rebel against us and it encourages connection, a most useful ingredient for a calm and effective classroom.
- Apologise to children whenever we are wrong. This makes kids feel respected, included and safe in the knowledge that it is okay to ‘not get it right’. It also eases parental/educator guilt and we know the horrible affect THAT has on a good night sleep!
- Love OURSELVES, then our children will listen when we admonish them to love THEMSELVES. Words backed with the energy of integrity are extraordinarily powerful.
A little bit of self-examination goes a long way